Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Feel Needed...

Actually I wanted to put this down for quite some time yet I don't have the courage to do it as I'm not sure that it will turn out perfectly as what I want people to understand. I guess I have to try it after all it's only a one cent opinion. This is something that a friend confide in me.

You are surrounded by the people you love the most but yet you doesn't feel needed at all. Have you ever feel that way? Me? I do sometimes and it feels sucks big time.

You are in the same room watching tv with your family yet whenever something comes up, you are not even so called "invited" to join in. They talk and tell stories like you are not there with them. When you try to blend in, they suddenly stop doing what they were doing. Hello!!!

Another scenario is still the same family. After work, you stayed at home doing your thing and they doing their things. You prepared meals and dinner with them, no conversation sited. Cleaning the house, with they seeing you doing it, no conversation sited. Watching tv together with them, no conversation sited. And yet when they want to say something or talk about something with you, they wait until the next day when you're working or they working or at schools and reach you via sms or YM. Genius at work!!! Am I a ghost here? Can anybody see me?

What do you feel when those two happens? Feel like not needed in their life. That's what my friend feels. I can't agree more with her. All I can say is, you shouldn't worry about all this. To me He knows better and for you to bear with it or be patient with it is something that can make you stronger. Or better still, confront them and talk things out. Sometimes it just a misunderstanding that they don't realize it affected you or they actually have some matters to talk about yet they don't know how to start. Talk about it with them, be calm and ready to face the outcome. Truth does hurts but be brave and if you think cry can help.. just cry let it all out. We have to clear our head and think straight.

worthy lesson - You have to need yourself first before everybody else.

2 comments:

neat-cha! said...

the worst feeling in this world is not being lonely but being ignored..

aka Kak Non said...

right!! 100%